I’m not going into details of my 10-year marriage and bore you but I can tell you this – it’s the most challenging roller-coater ride I have been on.
So what do we do when we don’t like parts of the roller-coaster ride? Sometimes I just feel like walking away and going on the tea-cup rides – aren’t tea-cups a lot prettier and the ride is so smooth? But I know myself, I will crave for the bumps, the sharp turns and the sudden rise and fall. That’s what my marriage is and I can’t imagine having any other kind of marriage. Nothing is predictable in my marriage and yet that is my biggest challenge. I want some predictability but not too much; I want some stability but I know I will crave for adventure.
There are days when I feel I have had enough – the traditional definition of marriage is not for me.
I walk away, I come back. I struggle to make sense.
But maybe I don’t have to and just let it be. Maybe it’s time to throw away all the rules and conventions of marriage and write a new book of the rules of marriage.
If there is one thing you could add to the New Rules for marriage, what would it be?